The pain is harder to clean

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The pain is harder to clean

Categories: 21-Day Racial Equity Challenge, Advocacy, Blog, Get Involved, News

Shannon Isom is president and CEO of YWCA Dayton, the oldest social service organization for women in Montgomery and Preble counties. Since 1870 it has been on a mission to eliminate racism, empower women, and promote peace, justice, freedom, and dignity for all.

The spray paint came off easily.

During weekend protests across downtown Dayton, YWCA Dayton’s physical structure sustained little damage. Outside of a small montage of trash, a few tags of graffiti were sprayed on windows and the façade.

I thought about leaving it there. Maybe even putting a frame around it, an inscription that pointed to what some call lawlessness, destruction of property, criminal behavior – Yes;  all of that’s true.

Rioting is, in fact, criminal behavior. And yet, it is also pain, anger, trauma, constraint, powerlessness, and the physical attempt to take control over something – sometimes anything, like the side of a building.

The act of rebellion is nothing new; the yearning to fight when all options are exhausted is a tactic that has been used many times before, even 244 years ago as the yet-to-be-united states would not show obsequious compliance to our then-British government. To what some considered the oppressor of freedom, of voice, of thought, governing – more than anything – individualism. We used to be ruled. Do you remember? These stories are our beginning and our sustenance; they are taught and even celebrated; as we fought to protect our unalienable rights. But even then, those rights were never for bodies that inhabited black skin.

Everyone now knows George Floyd’s name; but, there are countless others who have been killed and brutalized by the hands of the police, by the feigned terror of a white woman, by the silence of people who deem themselves ‘not-racist.’ Countless. Google it.

YWCA Dayton will not and cannot condone acts of violence and weaponized power and destruction of any kind. We condemn the killing, the looting, and the trauma that is inflicted on black men, black women, and black communities. We stand in solidarity with YWCA Minneapolis and YWCA St. Paul knowing we cannot give up our lofty mission of eliminating racism.

The spray paint on our building can be easily washed and trash can easily be removed; but, the pain and anger in which these acts are rooted cannot be healed unless they are seen and heard. That has to be addressed. The pain is harder to clean.

We ask that you focus less on the physical destruction and take this time to look at the human toll it takes to be black in this country, state, and city. YWCA Dayton mourns with the family of George Floyd; and with all of the families that are less whole simply because they are black.

We are dedicated to eliminating racism, empowering women, and promoting peace, justice, freedom, and dignity for all. Be an ally with us:

  1. Take our 21-Day Racial Equity and Social Justice Challenge. The next cohort starts June 19.
  2. Do the work. Diversify your listening; follow, read, seek out, and share stories told through voices that sound different than yours. Our Media On a Mission list is a great place to start.
  3. Vote and hold our elected officials accountable for the whole of our community, not just the parts you use. Visit to check your registration, find your polling place, and more.
  4. Complete your Census. Last time, 9 percent of black people in the U.S. were simply missed, a rate that was higher than any other racial or ethnic group.
  5. Give to agencies that work on behalf of agency for all, and make note of those who are silent or only speak when it’s convenient. Give to YWCA Dayton or any agency that works on behalf of our full humanity.